Updated: Mar 23, 2020
I love me some New Year's Resolutions, mostly because I am SUCH a work in progress as a person. I love love LOVE the idea of fresh starts and new habits, but I REALLY struggle with implementation. There are lots of things I'd like to change, and if you're a fellow parent who's reading this, I bet you can relate. It feels like there's always some area I am fucking up in! That being said, here are my goals and dreams going into the new year. You guys should comment yours if anyone ever actually reads this so that I can know I'm not alone.
Goal 1: Implement better daily and weekly routines. For example, I feel SO much better when I wake up at 5 am every day for work, giving myself time to prepare for the day, eat breakfast, and actually get ready. When I give in to the snooze button and wake up at 5:30 am, I feel rushed ALL day, I look like the before picture in one of those rehab recovery stories (I really need my mascara and blush ya'll, I am pale okay?), and I tend to be more likely to snap at my teenager because I feel stressed. 5 am wake ups SUCK in theory but they actually work super well for me, so I just need to suck it up and do it during the work week. In 2020, I'm going to get up at 5 am before work, exercise at least 3 times a week, and use my to-do list app (tasks) on a DAILY basis! If I write it down it'll happen, right? Fingers crossed.
Goal 2: Spend INTENTIONAL time with each of my kids AT LEAST once during the work week. Any other moms out there feel like you're with your kids every damn minute of the day, but you don't have a lot of moments of real connection with them? I definitely feel that way. I take both kids to work with me every morning, am with them as soon as their school day ends, and kid free time on the weekends is a pretty rare thing, so my goobers and I are together A LOT. But I still want to be more purposeful about my time with them. I love when Eli and I watch a show together in the evening. I live for Juju's giggle when I swing him on his therapy swing. I want to plan those special times out more instead of just waiting for them to happen by accident. Especially activities that include being ACTIVE. My oldest wants to start working out together, and I need to make it happen. I won't be in my 20's forever, so I can't keep relying on metabolism and good genes to keep my body healthy.
Goal 3 (this is the big one): Treat my partner with RESPECT. Some of you ladies are reading this and are like "that one's so easy, you probably already do that most days, don't be so hard on yourself! But my fellow toxic bitches are out here like "ugh GIRL the struggle is SO REAL!" Look ya'll, I freaking LOVE my partner. He is kind, patient, super interesting, and is the only man on earth I would even consider cohabiting with. He's the shit and is for sure my other half. HOWEVER, ya girl has some issues, And some of those issues include crossing the line from being a leader in our home to being a bossy asshole, taking my stress out on the most patient person in my life because I know he won't fight back (told you it was bad), and conveying my frustrations passive aggressively (ahem, or verbal aggressively) instead of oh, I don't know, TALKING about them. So yeah, I've got a lot to work on. My dude is great and I want him to know that I know he's great.
Now the fun part, my list of DREAMS for 2020, in no particular order:
Take our pop-up camper to some really cool places this summer and fall.
Take Eli to Canada (his dream country) at least once, maybe twice.
Take Juju to Morgan's Wonderland, a wheelchair accessible water park in Texas.
Make a plan for kid number 3.
Run a 5k with Julian in his jogging stroller.
Go to Harry Potter World with my partner.
Write on this blog weekly.
Actually publish it and let other people read it (OMG!)
Continue working on my Master's degree.
Continue creating a community of friends around our family.
What about you, mystery readers? Do you have goals for 2020? Dreams? I want to read about them.
LOL I definitely finished writing this post in March :p Still going to publish it though because I still believe in these resolutions.